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Pro Advice: 5 Reasons to Hire a Planner
May 31, 2011

Should I or shouldn’t I?  When it comes to wedding planning, you are either all about it, or couldn’t care less.  Regardless of what camp you reside in, it can be stressful just knowing where to begin.  Enter:  the wedding planner.  We’ve seen the movies and heard the stereotypes.  Thankfully, Janice, owner of Bellwether Events, wrote two great posts for us:  Five reasons to hire wedding planner, and five reasons not to hire a wedding planner.  If you are on the fence, unsure of what to do, read through Janice‘s advice on both sides of the issue.  I think you’ll find it helpful as you set out to plan your wedding.  Take it away, Janice:

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Photo Credit:  KateHaus Photography

Budget
If you have never spent $50,000 (just a random number that I picked) on one event/night/party before, this is going to stress you out. How much to spend and what things are you overlooking are just two of the many questions that will haunt you as you work on your budget and begin to hire vendors.  I think you should hire a planner because they have spent that much on one event/night/party before.  They can tell you what things in DC, MD, and VA actually cost (as opposed to the estimates in the online tools you may come across), and they will make sure that nothing is overlooked.

Time
Maybe you are having a short engagement, or maybe you have a super demanding career leaving little down time for your personal life.  And, possibly you don’t have any/many local friends or family members who can help you accomplish wedding-related tasks during this time.  These are all great reasons to hire a planner.  Wedding planners are here to do the legwork for you, and to help you have a normal life while you plan your wedding so that you can enjoy your engagement with your fiance.  We will keep your planning process moving forward, and make sure that everything actually gets done so that your wedding day is magnificent.

Confusion
There are so many magazines and blogs that you could spend hours pouring over.  There are seemingly infinite wedding professionals in the Washington, DC area that you could look into.  Where do you start?  How do you narrow your focus?  A planner will help you with this.  A planner knows about all the beautiful things on the blogs, but will help you find your own wedding theme or feeling.  A planner knows a lot of local vendors and will be able to point you in the direction of those that match your budget, taste and style.

Trust
After you look at about eight websites, send about five email inquiries, and have two to three in-person interviews, you will find the one.  Your wedding planner.  Your new friend and confidant.  Someone who you like and trust to help you plan your wedding events.  You will trust them to point you in the right direction, keep you on course, and reel you in when you get distracted.  You will trust them to do their job and make the wedding day smooth and stress free.  They will understand what you want and make it happen without you having to worry about it.

Attitude
This is what is overheard at my weddings:  People keep asking me if I am stressed out, but I’m not at all!  There is no better testimonial to me from my brides.  Wedding planning should be fun, and if you are getting guidance from a professional that you like and trust, you will really enjoy the experience.  And, that will show on your face and in your smile on the wedding day, and in the photos that live on after the wedding.

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Thank you, Janice, for your words of wisdom!  For more from Janice or if you are looking for a wedding planner in the DC area, be sure to visit her website.

Check back in a bit because we will have Janice’s five reasons to not hire a wedding planner.

Looking for more help?  Check out our tips and advice page.

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Pro Advice: For the Newly Engaged
January 18, 2011

You got your pretty, sparkling engagement ring over the holiday season, but where to begin?  Planning a wedding is an overwhelming process and just knowing where to start can be difficult.  We have the ladies from Event Design Group to give a few pointers for what to do now that you’ve become engaged.  Event Design Group is hosting a seminar for brides-to-be on February 5th, but we are lucky because they’ve shared a few little secrets with us.  Take it away, ladies:

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Photo credit:  Procopio Photography

The new year can bring the stressful task of wedding planning.  These simple tips will help get you moving in the right direction.

First, create a plan. As a newly engaged couple, you should write down what you want from your wedding.  Envision the perfect day, from start to finish, and make note of everything that will be required to make it happen!  Definitely reach for the stars, but set reasonable goals.  Target dates and deadlines are also important, so be sure to stick to them because having a plan will make the process a lot easier.

Second, develop a wedding budget. This task is usually the hardest, but is often most important in planning an event of this significance.  You, your fiance and your families should know how much money there is to spend and who is contributing.  Also, spend time deciding how much you’ll spend on each of the wedding expenses (wedding attire, catering, favors, venue rentals, etc.)  A spreadsheet will be essential for tracking expenses and staying on top of your budget.

Third, identify an expert that knows the ins and outs of the wedding industry to help execute your vision.  Coordinating with various vendors is no small feat, and a wedding expert can manage multiple people, and projects, at once.  Hiring someone that is familiar with your venue and location is a plus.

Finally, in the midst of planning your dream day, don’t forget about what’s most important¦ your marriage!  Take some pre-marital counseling classes so that you and your fiance have an idea of what’s in store for the rest of your lives.  The wedding is just the beginning.

No matter what, don’t forget to enjoy yourself.  This will be one of the most important and memorable days of your lives!  Happy Planning!

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Thank you so much, Event Design Group!  If you are looking for more help and advice, check out their DC wedding planning event, Engaged…Now What?, on February 5th.  (In my other life, I’m a stylish wedding garter designer and if you go, you could win one of my garters!)

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Pro Advice: How to Become Your Own Planner
December 23, 2010

Planning your wedding is overwhelming to say the least.  Where to start, how much money to spend, what to wear and the guest list!  Oh, the guest list!  We have Pavaune Pearson, owner of Invited, with a few tips for how to (sort of) become your own wedding planner.  Read on for a few of Pavaune‘s tricks of the trade…

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Photo credit:  Pereda Photography

I want to let you in on a little secret, since I feel as an engaged couple it’s vital that you know these things.  While it is fabulously convenient to have your own professional wedding planner by your side, if you can work it into your budget, I also understand 100% that not everyone can!  The fact of the matter is you won’t be able to gain all the knowledge we have in the span of time it takes to plan your wedding, but you can at least get in on a few tips from our years of experience.

You Won’t Know if You Don’t Ask
Chances are you’ve never planned a wedding before, so you don’t know all the in’s and out’s of the industry.  You don’t know what to look out for or what could go wrong.  The key to making sure all your bases are covered?  Ask the professionals.  Ask your photographer what things have gone wrong at past weddings, and how he’s prepared to handle those things if they happen at yours.  Ask your florist what flowers can’t survive the summer heat, or which are best acclimated to the cold.  Ask your photographer when the best time to take your portraits is so the light complements your skin.  Ask away!  Do not be ashamed or afraid!  We love when you ask questions!

Don’t Be Afraid to Use Color
Some brides come to me wanting too many colors.  Some don’t know how to begin to pick their colors.  While other brides are downright afraid of color.  Don’t be afraid of color!  Color is one of the best places to let both your personalities shine. Figure out what your two favorite colors are.  (This is a great place to get him involved!)  Once you’ve established your two favorite colors (i.e. pink & blue, red & yellow or purple & green), figure out shades of either that will work for your season!  I’m a big fan of using any color no matter the season just tweak the shade to work with the weather!  Hot pink won’t work in winter, but a nice tea rose pink will work great!  The best way to balance your two color options is with a nice background neutral to complement both.  The best options are browns, blacks, grays, whites, tans, etc.  The important thing to remember is: do not be afraid of using color, just remember to balance the colors with a neutral and you’re
golden!

Find Inspiration Where You Least Expect It
I speak to many brides who seem to look only in wedding magazines for ideas for their weddings, and every time I ask them, Why?! Look everywhere for inspiration!  Do not limit yourself to wedding magazines and websites.  Look at home decor magazines and hobby magazines.  Look at graphic design blogs and advice blogs!  Look outside when you’re hiking or at the beach.  You might find just the right color of blue you want, or the perfect shade of peach.  One of the best ideas I’ve ever gotten for a wedding was on a camping trip while admiring the moss on the trees.  Laying moss along the backdrop of the escort card holder for a rustic wedding was beautiful, practical and chic.  Do not limit
yourself!  Inspiration is everywhere!

I’m ready, are you!?  Thanks, Pavaune, for giving us a few wedding planning tips.  For more from Invited, visit Pavaune’s website here.

For more tips, check out our advice page full of information from the wedding professionals in DC, MD and VA.

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Advice From the Pros: 2019 Wedding Trends
May 14, 2019

Today we’re talking wedding trends! Yearly trends are some of our favorite things to explore over here on United with Love. As we come up on summer weddings in the DMV, we wanted to share some thoughts on the 2019 trends for the upcoming “busy season” from some fantastic DC area wedding planners. Although… if you ask us, the “busy season” is all year round in the wild world of wedding planning! Keep reading for ideas on what you can include on your big day.

What 2019 wedding trends are you most excited for and how can couples include them in their wedding day?

Zaida Gonzalez Photography via Geometric Modern Wedding Inspiration

While pink and gold are going no where, (certainly not in a more stylistically traditional city like DC,) I am seeing alternative metallics like copper and silver, and a move from blush to either peach or dusty rose. I am also seeing richer jewel tones making their way back into the color palettes as an accent option. Natural materials are still very popular: everything from marble and stone to wicker and bamboo. Fabrics look more natural; folks are generally staying away from shiny fabrics like satin. Couples and designers are also looking at ceilings and floors more than before, ensuring that weddings are customized from top to bottom; not just in the middle part of the venue. – Janice, Bellwether Events

One of my favorite wedding trends for 2019 is everything is leaning towards geometric designs. You can incorporate that with different style tables like rectangular, squares and rounds all together… A backdrop for your ceremony made with hexagons or triangles. Or an interesting food display with different shapes. – Katie, Elegance & Simplicity

 

Interactive Rolling Cheese Cart via Watercolor NMWA Wedding by Lisa Boggs Photography 

We are all about the “guest experience” for 2019! This means interactive food stations, creative guest books such as a silhouette artist cuttings that double as favors, and neon light backdrops bringing back the era of photo-booths with Gif-booths! – Tabitha, Roberts & Co Events

I do love that the Pantone color of the year is Coral; a bold happy color and I’m hoping clients will use them throughout their decor and embrace this fresh color. – Vicky, Event Accomplished

Clapp Studios via Bold Colorful Wedding

Creative and fun dessert stations, either in addition or instead of wedding cake. They could be interactive like an ice cream sundae bar or tie-in where a couple grew up like a “Pittsburgh cookie table” I love that vibrant colors are still on trend. Couples can choose to include a more fluid color palette with more of a range and variety of colors that go together vs. a strict 1-3 color scheme. I love that earthy/natural elements will continue to be on trend. There is something so beautiful and fresh with incorporating greenery and botanicals in the wedding design. It works in outdoor weddings as well as in door wedding and bringing the “outside in.” Ratan accents are trendy and could be used as chargers or in furniture rentals. – Margo, Bright Occasions

And if you’re looking for more info on planners, check out our Wedding Planners vs Coordinators vs DIY post to see which is the best fit for you!

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DC Monument Proposal Story
February 20, 2020

The moment we saw this adorable proposal from our friends at Birds of a Feather Photography we knew we had to share with our readers! Investing in proposal photography is a trend that we really love. It allows you to capture a moment that goes by so quickly, and reflecting in the joy is wonderful afterwards. This DC monument proposal took place on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial, overlooking the historic DC steps. We love how vibrant her red jacket pops against the Memorials iconic marble columns! We have had so many wonderful National Mall engagement sessions, that its great to see proposals in action. Thank you Birds of a Feather Photography for sharing it with us today!

We have all kinds of great inspiration from Washington DC proposals to engagement photo outfit ideas! Check out our Tips and Idea section for more wedding finds!

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Advice and Tips from Wedding Photographers!
November 2, 2017

We know that planning a DC area wedding can be overwhelming, exciting, and full of questions that you need your wedding professionals to help guide you through. Whether you are at the beginning stages, picking those first HUGE vendors that set the tone for your big day, or wrapping up final details before the home stretch we’re here to help. We are beginning series’ over the next few weeks of advice and tips from some of our favorite United with Love family members! Today we have rounded up amazing DC wedding photographers to share insight on planning, styles of photography, and what to expect over the course of the wedding day!

Lisa Blume Photography from Ritz Carlton Georgetown wedding

Does your Photographer have a preference on having a First Look versus the couple seeing each other at the altar?

Apparently so! Out of the answers we received on our recent survey, 71% of photographers said that they prefer the ease and time considerations a First Look gives to the wedding day. 29% of photographers said that they did not have a preference to either, while no one said they prefer a more traditional First Look at the altar. Ultimately all photographers are going to do what makes you, the couple, happiest! But if you are planning on wanting an abundance of portraits, bridal party photos, and family formals I would consider a First Look to ensure you are not trying to cram everything into a cocktail hour! Also, if you are getting married during winter months with an early sunset consider how much daylight will be left for portraits if you put off seeing each other earlier in the day!

Love Life Images

What advice can you give to help couples to make a First Look go easily and be less stressful?

“Having a private first look is a great way to ease some of those wedding day jitters and for a couple to connect and spend a few moments together without the pressure of an audience. A wedding day is long, full of stress and will go by in a blur, so taking a few moments alone allows a couple to be in the moment and enjoy being together before the rest of the day begins. It’s important to keep it simple when choosing a good spot for the first look. Somewhere with good light and a simple background that is convenient within the timeline is the best. Save the fabulous location for portraits with the bridal party and more creative portraits of the two of you. ” Love Life Images

“Basically, trust your photographer! I always prefer to shoot a first look in private without the bridal party within sight. The moment is much more intimate without obvious onlookers. If there is a way that the bridal party, parents, etc. can watch from a distance or through a window, that’s great and I am all for it. Another first look to remember is the brides father seeing her in her dress the first time. When possible I wish all brides would allow time for this. We see some really amazing things happen at father/daughter first looks. ” Mike B Photography

“Don’t make it more complicated than it has to be. We always want to make it more of an experience for you than a photo-op but if we can make it both, win-win. In all of our years, we have had ZERO couples wish they hadn’t done a first look. We have had a lot who wished they had done one. The first look does not make seeing your fiancé walking down the aisle less special. You get 2 special moments instead of 1.” Connor Studios

Birds of a Feather Photography

What is your best tip or trick to staying within a wedding photography budget?

“I think working with your timeline and using the time as wisely as possible is the best way to stay within a photography budget. If you can’t afford to have your photographer stay until the very end, maybe do a cool “night time” shot instead. Or skip all the getting ready photos and just do a few at the beginning. You don’t need to document every hair and makeup moment and can use that time elsewhere!”  Hannah Hudson Photography

“Ask yourself what how much coverage do you want from your photographer? Are engagement photos important to you? Do you need your photographer to stay until the very end? Normally I recommend that clients put more time on the front end rather the end of the day because guest start looking a little haggard after dancing for long periods of time. Photos can also get repetitive after the first 45 minutes of free dancing.” Lisa Blume Photography

“If high quality photography is essential to you, it’s best to begin your photography search immediately. This way, you can give yourselves a little more wiggle room when it comes to your photography budget. If you haven’t decided on the venue yet, maybe you can let go of some smaller areas of your wedding details, to make room for the photography team you would most like to work with, even if they are above your initial photography budget.” Birds of a Feather Photography

“One of the areas that couples can save a little on their photography budget is to avoid over-coverage. I feel that a 2nd photographer is most important from the last hour of bride and groom prep through the first hour off the reception. This is the crunch time where you have prep, possibly a first look, the ceremony, portraits, table details, cocktail hour, etc… It’s tough to cover alone at larger weddings. Once you are an hour into the reception, things begin to flow at a slower pace and a 2nd photographer is rarely needed. They become more like paparazzi and can be a distraction. I recommend to my clients that they plan on having a 2nd photographer for 3-4 hours in most cases.” Mike B Photography

Love Life Images

What advice or tips do you have for planning a balanced photography timeline?

“Formal family portraits can be stressful on the day of your wedding for no reason other than the simple fact that everyone wants to enjoy the party and be with their friends and family, making it difficult to have their undivided attention. To manage this time wisely, make a very specific list of groups with everyone’s first and last name. The photographer can be more efficient when they have the names rather than just, “couple with parents.” Also, plan to lump all the family photos together during one time chunk of the day. Spreading them out can make it more difficult to gather people and get their cooperation. Remind guests that are needed for photos where they need to be and at what time. This can be done at the rehearsal dinner.” Love Life Images

“For couple’s portraits, our secret weapon is to split the photos up into 3 small sections throughout the day. Once following the first look, once again just after the ceremony, and a 3rd round of portraits at sunset. Each time we’ll only take 7 to 10 minutes of portraits, but it gives our couples a break and time to enjoy the day as it’s happening. This also adds variety to locations, lighting, and backgrounds. “ Birds of a Feather Photography

“Your portrait list does not need to be every single combination of 6 variables. Think of what you want hanging on your walls and that’s what you want. ‘Shot Lists’ are a no-no. I don’t need to be told that you want your first dance photographed or how to specifically photograph it. What I would like to know is if you are planning a special lift or dip in your 1st dance or if you are doing something different and special, or a surprise so I am prepared to document it. “ Connor Studios

Love Life Images

DC Landmarks and Monuments: friends, foes, and tips to go with shooting there!

“We love to take advantage of the iconic scenery that DC has to offer and we know how to expertly navigate getting those photos. Most monuments do require a permit, and it’s easy enough to get one that it doesn’t make sense to risk it without one. Even though it might be crowded with tourists, they like to see wedding parties and there tends to be lots of cheering and congrats which can really boost the spirits of a wedding party. Traveling and parking at the monuments can be tricky, so the key here is hiring transportation and traveling together with your photographer and bridal party. If you are planning a wedding during the cherry blossoms, be prepared for big crowds and leave plenty of extra time for getting around, but it can really be worth it. “ Love Life Images

“If you want to take your 26 person bridal party to the Jefferson Memorial… we can do that! But we have to warn you that it’s going to take a long time, you must do a first look, and your bridal party needs to be patient with the process. The monuments are gorgeous and always worth the effort… but it does take quite a lot of effort. Don’t forget the permits! YES, you really do need them especially on your wedding day. Most professional photographers understand the legal consequences of shooting without a permit, and will not move forward without one in place. As long as you have a permit, and have a clear expectation of the time it will take to get these monument photos… it can happen very smoothly!” Birds of a Feather Photography

“Do not work with a photographer who agrees to photograph you at the monuments without a permit. If they are willing to let you get hassled on your wedding day, what other short-cuts are they taking? We don’t want to be fined or detained or have images taken from us on your wedding day. The permits are a hassle and aren’t the cheapest thing so if you don’t want to deal with it, talk with your photographer and find locations that don’t need them. “ Connor Studios 

“If you are in wedding attire, you are sticking out. Period. You’re much more likely to be noticed by Park Rangers. For that reason, I always have couples get a permit to shoot at these locations. One negative about shooting at DC landmarks or monuments is that most of the time weddings are on Saturdays which are the busiest tourist day for these locations. Doing a day after shoot is a lot easier if your couple is dying to get these shots and allows for a more relaxed and easy environment.” Hannah Hudson Photography

Mike B Photography

What Photography details do most couples forget about? What items should I remember to make your job easier?

“Please remember to have a pretty hanger on hand for your wedding dress- the one it comes on is probably not very photogenic. We like to be introduced to everyone in the room when we first show up and start shooting. That way we know who all the important people are in the room! Please bring comfortable shoes to walk in for photos. Some of the best locations require a bit of walking. If there is rain in the forecast for your wedding, buy clear umbrellas in case we can pop outside for a few shots. The clear will let in light where the solid colors will make your faces darker.” Love Life Images

“A huge time saver is to have the couple have their invitations, rings, jewelry, flowers, shoes, dress, etc… ready and available when I arrive for prep photos. I also suggest that the groomsmen be dressed when I arrive and that the groom is wearing his shirt and pants. This way I am not spending valuable time waiting for the guys to stop watching the football game and get ready. If the groom is dressed as requested it’s quick and easy to shoot him putting on his tie, cuff links, jacket, shoes, etc. If the couple are going to exchange gifts, wait until I am there to photograph it. Another thing is to remember to include space for your photographer in your shuttle, car, or limo, if you will be traveling to different locations for photos before or after the ceremony. This is especially true in DC where it can be easy to get separated by traffic or parking issues. Stick together!” Mike B Photography

“As photographers we love to use available, natural light in the getting ready space. Our biggest hurdle is always a dark, small, and cluttered getting ready room for the Bride. Choose your getting ready space with photography in mind! There are many gorgeous hotels in the city with beautiful, light filled hotel rooms and suites. The best trick is to have hair and makeup done in any available room, NOT the prettiest. The hair and makeup clutter the beautiful space. Instead, save one room, possibly that evening’s bridal suite or a parent’s room as the space where the bridal details can be photographed, and where the Bride can get dressed without the clutter.” Birds of a Feather Photography

“For detail photos and styling accessories  I recommend having pretty ring boxes ready and maybe even some loose fabric to style with.” Lisa Blume Photography

“Know how to tie those bowties! I can’t tell you how many times, especially grooms and groomsmen, have bowties that they don’t know how to tie. So they are getting ready and realize at the last minute that no one knows how to tie them and everyone runs late. Also, have someone who knows how to pin bouts. Lastly, have a point person who knows all the family member and who can wrangle family members for quick family photos!” Hannah Hudson Photography

Birds of a Feather Photography

Give us your best or worst wedding photography story!

“Thinking about all the stories we could tell was fun. Crazy things we’ve come across include hurricanes, epic snowstorms, irate priests, cicada infestations, too much alcohol, broken down transportation, overzealous church volunteers, passed out groomsmen, drunk wedding toasts, broken ankles, lots of family arguing and even hospitalization. Knowing how to handle these situations calmly and professionally navigating them to get photos we need takes practice. We once had a very tall cake that was about to fall over, so we convinced the caterer to move the cake cutting from the end of the night to right after the first dance. But not all of it is disastrous. There are some really wonderful and beautiful surprises that we never could have anticipated happen at weddings. There was a wedding at Congressional Country Club that the parents of the couple surprised them with fireworks over the golf course, which made really fabulous photos! Our job is much more than just taking pictures.” Love Life Images

“Well I wouldn’t call it my best story, most definitely it would be the worst. I photographed a destination wedding two years ago in Annapolis. The bride’s father had passed away two years prior to the wedding I believe. The brides mother walked her down the aisle to the altar in place of her father. The ceremony took place and it was gorgeous and very emotional with the brides father being mentioned several times during the ceremony. As soon as the ceremony ended we started portraits with the immediate family on the alter. The first photo was of the bride and her mother. I got the shot and offered a hand to the brides mother as she stepped down off the alter, she went limp and slowly fell to the floor. She suffered a massive heart attack and passed away within minutes. It was shocking and heartbreaking beyond anything I’ve ever experienced. Everyone was a wreck and as the mother was transported to the hospital with bride, groom, maid of honor and a couple of other close friends, I became the liaison between the family and the guests who were all from out of town, as well as the remaining vendors (catering, venue, DJ, etc..). The reception was held but it became more of a somber family meal and reunion. When the bride finally arrived from the hospital she helped to turn it into a celebration of her mothers life. I did not expect that I would be going home after the wedding that night and editing her mother’s wedding portrait for use as a photo on her prayer card and obituary. It was huge reminder to me about the power of photography and how important out job is. One of the best good stories occurred at a waterfront private estate wedding near Williamsburg, VA, the same year. The couple was surprised with a very large fireworks display during the reception. I had no idea it was happening and when I saw the size of the fireworks display, I had to capture it. I was able to scramble quickly (in about 30 seconds) set up a couple of lights, grab a different camera suits to capturing the moment, and squeezed behind the couple to capture them viewing their private fireworks display. The shot I captured is now one of my signature photos and one of my favorites to date. Another great moment occurred when a couple I was working with during an engagement session decided to jump into one of the reflecting pools near the Capital from opposite sides. They ran towards each other and met in the middle, he picked her up and they kissed in the middle of the reflection pool with the capital centered in the background. It was unexpected but it’s now on my business card. I have shot weddings in hurricanes with no electricity, only candlelight, and also in blizzards. The key is to be prepared for anything and be ready to react immediately. “ Mike B Photography

“Recently I had a bride who was getting married in Old Town Alexandria, so we headed to our favorite first look spot and got a few portraits around town. At some point the bride looked down at her feet and her Manolo Blahnik satin white heels were soaked in blood. Apparently they had been rubbing on her toe and help….. it wasn’t a pretty sight. I immediately found a local floral shop (the Enchanted Florist) and they were able to give us some hydrogen peroxide, paper towels, and band-aids which was so sweet of them! A couple of years ago I was photographing a rehearsal dinner on the top floor of the Hay Adams Hotel and while the sun was setting I noticed that the White House was lit up with wonderful rainbow colors! What a surprise!! Then we found out that the Supreme Court officially passed a law allowing same-sex couples nationwide to marry. The White House was illuminated in rainbow colors for the evening as a nod to the achievement of the gay rights movement! It was an incredible moment that I will never forget. Everyday I’m reminded how lucky I am to live in our nation’s capital.” Lisa Blume Photography

Hannah Hudson Photography via DC Fairmont Hotel Wedding

“One of the moments that has always stuck with me was a bride who was supposed to have a beautiful outdoor Fall wedding in the country. That day, it was down pouring and then hailing with lightning. There were also tornados in the area. You could have COMPLETELY forgiven her for having a small moment to freak out. Whenever anyone asked her that morning if she was ok, she just smiled and said she was getting married and her husband-to-be had just made it back from active duty in Iraq safe so what more could she ask for. I tell that story a lot to brides I meet. It’s about perspective and it can make or break your day. If your flowers aren’t the exact shade of lavender you wanted, you need to decide if you are going to let it ruin your day. (PS – I would suggest you don’t!) ” Connor Studios

Connor Studios via Maryland Country Club Wedding

Thank you so much to our wonderful DC wedding photography partners for sharing their best tips and advice for navigating wedding day photos! To see additional DC wedding vendors check out our Vendor Guide. For more help look through our DC wedding tips and advice!

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Design Advice: Working With Your Wedding Venue
June 14, 2016

Today we are handing over the reins to Bellwether Events’ Janice Carnevale so she can discuss how to design your wedding around the venue of your choosing, instead of trying to fight against it with decor, florals, lighting, and more! Thank you to Kristi Odom Photography for the spectacular photos of Janice’s event.

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I’m excited to be on United With Love today talking about how to work with your wedding venue when creating your wedding design. This is not a post about how to turn a bland ballroom into an eclectic French garden, or how to transform a rustic working barn into an elegant and traditional ballroom. (That is a wedding advice post for another day!) I’m here today to talk to you about the importance of working with what your wedding location has to offer and to give you a few tricks for getting the most out of your wedding location.

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Picking a venue for your wedding that compliments your desired wedding day design vision is important if you are on any sort of budget. Most engaged couples don’t have unlimited funds to create a total transformation of their wedding venue. So if you can, select a wedding venue that ties into the look, feel and vibe you are going for already. The less you have to do to transform a space, the happier your budget will be.

PICK YOUR STYLE

First, identify the style of your desired wedding venue and determine how it fits within your wedding celebration’s design. Do you want a formal, more elegant wedding? Or, do you want to get married outside in a garden setting? Before you sign on the dotted line with a wedding venue, put some thought into your wedding’s design. Make sure that your wedding venue fits into your overall design. If you booked a rustic barn, I hope you are planning to use natural textures and loose, mixed flowers. If you secured a historic mansion, I hope you’ll consider metallics and soft neutrals for your wedding.

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WORK WITH WHAT YOU HAVE

Second, look at what already exists in your wedding’s location and work with what it already has to offer. Dramatically changing a space can be done, but it is expensive. You will save yourself money by making the space work for your wedding, not against it. Does you your wedding location have tall or low ceilings? Expansive windows with a rooftop view? (I’m thinking of the Newseum in downtown Washington, DC.) How about architectural features such as columns or chandeliers? (The Carnegie Institution for Science in Washington DC comes to my mind.) Maybe there is a bold carpet in the wedding reception room (Such as the carpet in the Paris ballroom at the Hotel Monaco in DC) or beautiful hardwood floors? (I’m thinking about DAR right near the White House in Washington, DC.)

Once you have a good assessment of what your wedding venue has to offer, decide what you want to point your wedding guests’ eyes towards and what you want to distract them from. Tall ceilings in an event space typically beget tall centerpieces, unless you don’t want to obstruct a rooftop view. Conversely, low ceilings generally feel less claustrophobic with low centerpieces. A bold carpet can be muted with the use of a dark, coordinating linen on all your tables. Are you in love with the dark hardwood floors of your wedding venue? Use a light colored linen for your reception dinner tables to contrast and draw the eye to those beautiful floors.With your wedding location, talk to your wedding planner, florist and rental company about what their recommendations are. What will work in your wedding space? What can you take advantage of and play up for your wedding?

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JUST ASK

Third, be sure to ask your venue about the props, decor, rentals and other items that they already have in their inventory for you to use on your wedding. Take particular note of these smaller things that your wedding venue offers, such as tables and chairs or mounted decor. The less you have to do and rent for your wedding, the more you invest in other areas of your guests’ experience.

My clients saw that Riverside on the Potomac had a whole bunch of fun small props like the wooden chicken and the metal rooster and knew that we would be able to incorporate them in the tablescape. And since the venue provides perimeter benches in the cocktail hour space, we brought in some DIY throw pillows that also played on our rustic theme. Another great example of making use of what a wedding location already has is the Hay-Adams Hotel near the White House in Washington, DC. They recently renovated their ballroom and built the event space’s ceiling to accommodate rigging for hanging decor. If you are dreaming about a hanging chandelier of flowers or a wave of ribbons for your wedding, then this is a wedding venue you could consider.

Maybe it is as simple as using the chairs that come with your wedding venue. If you’re on a budget for your wedding and the gold chivari chairs are free at your wedding location, then use them, even if it means tweaking your decor plan a little bit! Whether it is already installed or you can rent it directly from your wedding venue, you’d be penny wise to take advantage of the “perks” that your chosen wedding location already has.

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LIGHTING

The last piece of wedding planning and budget advice that I have for you about how to work with your wedding location is to consider lighting. Flowers, props and rented decor are not the only ways to accent a wedding venue. Lighting is a great way to highlight or downplay areas of your wedding venue. Hate the chandeliers? Don’t turn them on. Instead use uplights, pinspots and a dance floor wash to light the room instead. Does your wedding location have beautiful columns or a ceiling that you want your wedding guests to notice? Shine a light on it. It doesn’t even have to be a light with color; sometimes a simple white light is best.

There are so many different wedding locations here in the DC area to choose from that there is no need to force your location into your desired vision. From big to small, indoor to outdoor, rustic to traditional, there is just about every style of wedding location in the DC area to choose from. Engaged couples can find just about any type, style and budget location for their special day and then make that venue work for their wedding!

Thank you to Bellwether Events’ Janice Carnevale for taking the time to guest write for our blog today! Check out our other advice posts with the help of our local DC area wedding vendors!

Photo Credits: Kristi Odom Photography

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Budget Advice: Splurging and Saving
May 19, 2016

credit: Kristen Gardner Photography

Credit: Kristen Gardner Photography

Budget planning for an event as large as your wedding can be overwhelming and daunting to say the least. We asked a few of our favorite DC area wedding planners for some words of advice to hopefully help in planning for the unexpected, and where to splurge a little. The one advice that we hear most from our featured DC real wedding couples is, to prioritize what aspects of the wedding are most important to you as a couple and shift your budget to accommodate. Thank you to our wonderful United with Love vendors who helped give insight in planning a great budget!

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Question: What wedding budget item do you feel is most forgotten about, or under estimated by brides? And why is it important to remember?

“For tented outdoor weddings, funds needed to execute a rain plan.  Understandably, brides don’t like to confront the fact that it might rain on their wedding day.  However, it is so important to think about plan B and to set aside funds needed for extra equipment and services that might be needed in the event of rain.  For example, rain might mean additional tenting for the ceremony and cocktail hour.  Rain also might require marquees, or tented hallways, running from the catering tent to the dinner tent and from the dinner tent to restroom facilities.  Sometimes, heavy rain can make flooring an absolute necessity, depending on how water drains at the wedding site.  Heavy rain can also complicate vendor load ins, making it impossible for heavy trucks to move across soaking wet grass without getting stuck or tearing up the property. ”  Allison of Pineapple Productions

Credit: Connor Studios & Sugarplum Tent Company

“Don’t forget about all the little detail items! These include all of your day-of signage and frames, any cocktail napkins or drink swizzle sticks, table numbers, ribbon for welcome bags, etc.  All of the components for these pieces can start to add up and a lot of couples underestimate the true cost! Secondly, don’t forget about wedding insurance. Even if your venue doesn’t require it, for a few hundred dollars, it’s always a good investment for the unknown! “ Kelley of Kelley Cannon Events

“I think many folks forget to plan for gratuities. We live in a culture that tips service providers who meet or exceed expectations. When it comes time, often in the last few weeks before one’s wedding, creating a tally of all those folks can become a list of dozens of people, resulting in up to thousands of dollars in tips or gifts. I always have my clients plan for this in advance within their initial budget!” Janice of Bellwether Events

“Rentals are often underestimated when making budget plans. Stand alone venues allow you to customize and bring in your own rentals, especially if working with a catering company. Many couples don’t realize how many glasses are really needed for an open bar, or extra tables for service and miscellaneous decor like gifts and the guest book. These items add up quickly, and can fluctuate depending on your final numbers so make sure to leave room in the budget to accommodate.” Kristen of Roberts & Co. Events

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Question: Beyond photography/videography, what is one or two items or vendors that you think are always worth the investment when allocating wedding funds?

“Lighting!  Lighting does so much to set a warm, welcoming atmosphere.  It can transform an event space, even a drab one. Plus, proper event lighting allows guests to see and appreciate all your wedding decor, from large statement pieces to the smallest table top details.  Most importantly, good lighting will enhance your wedding pictures and ensure that they are as beautiful and vibrant as they can be.” Allison of Pineapple Productions

“End of night transportation for the couple is always worth the money.  It’s easier to avoid having to wait on an uber or cab, especially if you are having a special send-off, a hired, dedicated vehicle for the bride and groom is the way to go. Transportation companies offer one way transfer town cars, which is a great way to avoid hour minimums on limos or buses. ” Kelley of Kelley Cannon Events

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credit: Ralph Alswang Photoraphy

“With all the rain we’ve been having recently I can’t help but immediately think that a tent with a platform floor sounds like a great investment right about now. My clients who have invested in good tents and raised floors have never had buyer’s remorse, and those un-sexy budget items have often saved the day in the event of inclement weather. “ Janice of Bellwether Events

“A wedding planner or wedding coordinator, and I’m not saying this just because I happen to be one. I have been told by so many clients and friends of clients, that the one vendor they were so happy to have was a wedding planner/coordinator. And conversely, have been told by people who didn’t have a planner/coordinator, that they regretted that decision come the wedding day. A coordinator will save the couple so much time and energy and really allow them to fully celebrate and be present day-of, they will also be able to work with all vendors and provide experienced event management to carry out their clients dream wedding. A good planner, among so many things, will provide invaluable advice and guidance and keep their clients on track throughout the process. A good wedding planner or coordinator is not the venue contact, caterer or friend who dabbles in event planning. You get what you pay for, so choose someone who is a professional wedding and event planner!” Margo of Bright Occasions

“A textured upgraded linen over a plain twill-cotton linen is always worth the splurge. Typically only $12-15 more per table will help elevate your entire reception room and make it more personalized and lux looking. If you don’t have the budget to do all of your guest seating tables, upgrade dessert tables, and auxiliary tables such as escort card and bar tables. Secondly, welcome items for your hotel guests is a delightful treat that starts the wedding weekend off. From a simple combo of cookies and a hand written note with the wedding itinerary to a curated box from Marigold and Grey, guests appreciate you putting in the extra touches to appreciate their time for the weekend.” Kristen from Roberts & Co. EVents.

 

 

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Budget Advice: Breakdown by Percentages
May 17, 2016

We recently opened up a survey to all of our readers asking what they might need the most help on when planning their DC area wedding. We have gathered all of your thoughts, options, and questions and found that an overwhelming number of brides and grooms are looking for some budgeting help. From when to spend and when to splurge to the precise breakdown of vendor prices, it is clear that we needed to give some guidance in this department!

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Our couples really run the gamut when it comes to specific budgets, so we thought it would be best to provide a budget breakdown suggestion based on percentages so that you can see exactly how your dollar amounts can be allocated. We have also included a few general averages but it is worth noting that these percentages and averages vary greatly depending on the DC area wedding vendor that you are working with and also the aspects of your wedding that you decide to prioritize. The following list is only a suggestion and starting point for what you can except in the Washington, DC area.

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Attire
Total: 5 percent

Includes: wedding dress, shoes, hairpiece, jewelry, tux

Ceremony
Total: 2 percent

Includes: officiant fees, marriage license, location fee

Photography + Videography 
Total: 10 percent

Includes: coverage during ceremony and reception and album

Flowers/Decor
Total:
10 percent

Includes: bouquets, boutonnieres, floral arrangements for ceremony and reception

Music
Total:
5 percent

Includes: music for ceremony, cocktail hour music, DJ for reception

Average Price in DC Area: DJ Servicesw Starting at $1,650 for 4-6 hours

Paper Goods
Total: 4 percent

Includes: save the dates, invitations, programs, escort cards, signs, favors, thank you notes, postage, calligraphy, guest book

Transportation 
Total: 3 percent

Includes: couple and bridal party transportation, guest shuttle, parking attendants

Venue
Total: 10 percent

Includes: wedding location rental fee

Catering
Total: 35 percent

Includes: food, drink and rentals (chairs, plates, linens etc.)

Cake
Total: 2 percent

Includes: cake or other dessert, server or cutting at venue, knife, topper

Average Price in DC Area: Starting at $4/head *Only need to allocate cake for 65% of guests

Wedding Rings
Total: 3 percent

Wedding Planner or Coordinator 
Total: 8 percent

Includes: planning and/or coordination services

Average Price in DC Area: Day-Of Coordination Around $1,700-$2,200

Cushion 
Total: 3 percent

Includes: make-up, hair, welcome baskets, bridal party gifts, parent gifts

 

Stay tuned for more DC area wedding budget tips and tricks coming up over the next couple of weeks!

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It™s All A Wedding: Wedding Planning Advice From Real LGBT Couples
August 26, 2015

The Supreme Court’s ruling in June said that same-sex couples can marry nationwide and that states can no longer deny marriage to couples based on their sexual orientation. Yes! Married same-sex couples will now have the same legal rights as heterosexual couples in all states. Here in the DMV, we have been celebrating and honoring same sex marriages for a few years. Same sex couples have been marrying in the District of Columbia since 2009 and in Maryland since 2013.

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Photo Credit: Kelly Prizel Photography of Alex and Kate

Now that same sex couples can marry in all states, I’m wondering is there any difference between planning a marriage for a same sex couple as for a heterosexual couple? Are there any specific challenges or things that LGBT couples wish they knew before getting started in their wedding planning process? Here at United With Love, we’ve taken the approach over the years that it is all just a wedding, straight or same-sex, and each wedding poses its own unique challenges regardless of the sexual orientation of the couple. We try to give general wedding planning advice specific to the Washington DC area so that couples can then apply that advice to their own marriage in they way they see fit.

For more on the subject of LGBT wedding planning challenges (or not!), I turned to Candy at Candy+Co. Events. Candy reached out to a few of her past wedding planning clients who are same sex couples who were married in Washington DC. What did they have to say on the matter? Was their wedding planning experience different or more challenging because they were a same sex couple? What would they advise current LGBT couples planning a wedding? What should they look out for? Here’s what they had to say about their wedding planning experience as it specifically relates to being a same sex couple¦

THE MARRIAGE

The two best pieces of advice someone gave me was: 1.) Hire a professional, even if it is just to coordinate the event on-site. This is your special day, you want to be able to experience it, enjoy it and remember. And not be worrying about whether Uncle Warren is going to remember to pay the caterer. 2.) When planning the wedding, schedule and devote time to NOT TALK ABOUT THE WEDDING. The closer you get, the easier it is to let the final decisions and planning take over every moment. Take some time to let in some oxygen and allow you relationship to breathe. – DJ + Mike

My advice to any couple is make sure you are getting married because you want to and not because you are trying to make a statement. I wanted to be married where I live; not to travel to another state to do it. It just wouldn’t have felt right. My partner and I are not real religious so getting married in a church just didn’t feel right. It is your wedding and your special day so get married where ever you want and find that right person to marry you; not someone that feels obligated because of the new law that was passed. – Jeff + Jim

My husband and I thought about how we wanted ourselves and guests to feel at the wedding to make up a mission statement. We decided we wanted it to be fun, elegant, relaxed, with some Southern (me) and Midwestern flair (him). We gave those ideas to our wedding planner along with our budget and she compiled lists of websites and contacts for us to visit. We found our wedding planner through a referral by a friend.  – DJ + Mike

THE PLANNING

Given that we lived in a jurisdiction that legalized gay marriage back in 2010, we didn’t have as many issues. Our wedding was also not right after the legislation passed; a good 18-months went by until our wedding day. We still did run into instances where people asked about the ˜bride’…and then apologized. We found ourselves using the term ˜bridal party’ and ˜bridesmaids dresses’ a few times as a slip of the tongue. I could only imagine planning a wedding in a location before gay marriage was legalized nationwide. I could also see challenges with some foreign destinations. There were minor things that came up, ˜traditional elements of a wedding’ that did not make sense to be part of a gay wedding. Overall, it was nothing major.  – Bill + Harry

The main thing that made my wedding day easier than I hoped was knowing that I had a dedicated wedding planner and team of close family and friends that were going to do everything to make the day run smoother. I felt that I had a good idea of who was going to show up, how the day was going to run and felt I’d be able to be emotionally, mentally and spiritually present. Also, knowing that my wedding planner had talked to each and every vendor, from the venue to the caterer to the limo drivers, to make sure they had no issues with serving a wedding for two men. I’m lucky to live in Washington, DC, which has been pretty open to weddings of same-sex couples even before the district legally recognized out-of-state weddings in 2009, and then full marriage rights within the district in 2010. I was fairly confident most businesses would be accepting, but given how people all types of political leanings are in DC, you never know how a business might react.  – DJ + Mike

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Photo Credit: Jessie Mary Photography of Bill and Harry

THE VENDORS

For the most part, we didn’t feel like we were planning anything more unusual than a wedding. We did, however, make sure that our vendors had worked with gay couples before (this mostly involved scouting websites to see if there were photos or examples of same-sex couples). One of the photographers we talked to had never shot a same-sex wedding, and we ended up going with someone else partly because of that. We also faced some family drama around the fact that we were two women getting married, but we figure every wedding has its family drama, so that was just our particular flavor. – Kate + Alex

Frankly, we never paid much attention to weddings before we got engaged. Once we started the planning process, we discovered the size and scope of the wedding industry and that many vendors are not up to par…Seek those who want your satisfaction, not just your money. With that being said, being in D.C. or the nearby suburbs, we never felt any of our negative vendor experiences were due to our sexual orientation. Do not assume that those who might treat you poorly are doing so because you are LGBT. In fact, we met with an openly gay caterer who was late, unfriendly and left bridal magazines all over the tasting room. Meanwhile, the straight caterer we ended up hiring (Spilled Milk) wowed us with delicious food and incredible hospitality. Our sexual orientation was irrelevant. Also, realize that a lot of the marketing, advertising and branding has not caught up to the laws or culture. You might have to spend a little extra time or money to find LGBT-inclusive or neutral cake toppers, cards, etc. As an interracial gay couple, we got creative or made a couple of DIY items because of this lack of representation. For example, we bought love birds for our cake toppers because the pre-packaged statues only featured straight couples or they looked nothing like us. – M and T

Separate from the services they provide, it is critical to get a sense of the wedding ascetic that the vendors work with. We met with (and sampled) a lot of really good vendors but it was clear which vendors would fit best with our vision of our wedding day. Thinking about the caterers in particular, most prepared really good food, however, some were very traditional in their service and conceptions about wedding menus. For us, that was not a good fit  I never really thought about this until after the fact. Would have saved us and them a lot of time. – Bill + Harry

For my wedding, I did not feel I ran into any unusual challenges that prevented me from planning my wedding. Even though everyone wants to be treated equally and have the same wedding as a straight couple, there are some differences with a gay wedding and some of your challenges will be with people and businesses who do not want to be part of your day, and frankly why would you want them to be? Look for the people and businesses that are at least gay friendly and/or gay owned and that will hopefully alleviate some of the stress and challenges you might face. Be upfront with them from the start; you are looking for someone to be a part of your gay wedding. You will know if they are worthy of your business. – Jeff + Jim

I did get married in Washington, DC, so gay life is very much recognized and I feel most businesses that we could have chosen from, caterers to flowers to venues and even your officiant, was not difficult to find. In other states, this may be an issue. I felt that every business and all of the staff we worked with were very comfortable with us and our guests from start to finish. I could not have been more pleased. After all, it is your special day and you will find all of the right components, otherwise you won’t be choosing that particular person, venue or area. – Jeff + Jim

THE CEREMONY

Focus on the ceremony – for us, that was the part that mattered. The reception is just a giant party we wanted to have it planned out well enough that people would have a good time, but didn’t want to stress too much about the details. – Kate + Alex

Don’t skip out on the pre-wedding couples counseling. No matter how long you have been together, getting married is a life changing event. Working with a professional or spiritual adviser to put that all into context is very important, and also helping you paint a picture of how your relationship will and should change as a married couple is critical.  – Bill + Harry

THE TRADITIONS

The only two challenges we faced dealt with tradition. First, my husband and I needed to decide which traditions from our families, or heritage we felt were appropriate for us. Were we going to jump a broom? Hold it in a church? Have our parents walk us down the aisle. And the other challenge was that my family didn’t really know how to react to a wedding for two men.  This was the first time many of them attended. To find traditions that felt us, we did a lot of reading, talking to other married friends and thinking about other marriage ceremonies we’d seen that touched us. We decided to start with a social happy hour to get our families interacting. We decided to skip the church, but have a close friend who is a former minister do the ceremony. We didn’t jump the broom, but did have other mother’s light candles that we then each used to light a unity candle right before exchanging rings and vows. As for my family, I had some one-on-one conversations to remind them that they should treat this wedding just like any other wedding they had attended: Congratulate us, send back the response card and don’t bring extra uninvited guests. On the day of, my family had some touching, heartfelt moments that was more meaningful than I could’ve ever imagined. – DJ + Mike

THE GUESTS

Our primary challenge was deciding on our strategy for inviting wedding guests – particularly extended family members – who we knew or suspected did not support marriage equality for same-sex couples. With friends, we were more selective. But ultimately, we chose to invite all family members, putting the onus on them to RSVP ‘yes’ or ‘no.’ Others may decide to do otherwise or may feel uncomfortable doing this, but we did not want family members who wanted to attend (and did indeed attend) to feel slighted or insulted that their mother/brother/etc was not invited as well. We also did not want anyone to claim, down the road that they would have attended if invited. Perhaps, and hopefully soon, this won’t be an issue. – M and T

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Wow, thank you so much to Candy and to all of the couples who provided such amazing and personal wedding planning advice for having a same sex wedding here in the Washington DC area. For more from Candy and her incredible team of wedding planners in DC, be sure to check her out at Candy+Co. Events.

In the meantime, be sure to check out all of the other DC area wedding advice that we have put together for you or look through our list of the best Washington DC area wedding vendors!

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